Dating a techie

I’m not entirely sure how we got onto this topic of discussion in DEC-10 today but Matt and I ended up talking about dating a like-minded, interested in computers type of person. I’m blogging about this because I’ve had thoughts on this for a while and when I found views that were almost opposite to mine I decided that I had to mention it.

Basically I would never date a girl who was into computers, code and other techie things. Why I hear you ask, well the reason is that computers are my life, my computer is where I run to when the world hates me, code is what I write when I’m depressed and need to get it out of my system. To share that part of my life with a significant other (which would be inevitable if they were into that kind of thing too) would be to invade the one part of my life that I like to keep just for me. Jazz I’ll share, love of the outdoors I’ll share, even my deepest feelings I’ll share, but the contents of my text editor is just between me and the screen on which I’m viewing it. It sounds crazy I know, but sometimes my work in the computing world is the only thing that keeps me sane.

Matt’s point was that to date a techie would mean them not getting bored when you talked to them about your joy at getting a program working or your latest project, but my view is that with a whole world out there full of discussion topics and common ground, why does talking about technical stuff matter with your significant other, in fact, surely having a break from the screen and it’s contents is just what the average techie needs. Nope, I’m sticking with my unwritten rule – I wouldn’t date a techie.


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  1. Gaz Said,

    October 27, 2006 @ 2:57 am

    We’ve had this conversation too, and I understand what you say completely. My ex was in my band once, and it got really annoying at one point. On the other hand, it was cool being able to share songwriting with her. Meep, now shes living with a German so who cares 😛

  2. Matt Revell Said,

    October 28, 2006 @ 12:47 am

    I wouldn’t want a coding genius as a girlfriend, this would just be wrong. All I was saying really was it’d be nice if your girlfriend understood the joy of finally cracking that coding problem you spent days working on.

    Still, as usual I’m just off on one of my ridiculously utopian daydreams, hohum!

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